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The late punkmusicfan (henceforth thespian86) does an excellent job of highlighting one of my primary objections to the whole pick up artist thing. It doesn't foster personal growth. Instead of learning to have confidence in yourself, you follow a set of rules and play a game. Given that both methods can achieve the same result and that the method promoted by myself and my compatriot allows you infinitely more flexibility in both what you achieve and how you achieve it, I'm forced to conclude that the PUA stuff is unnecessary and redundant at best, and at worst actively harmful.
It reminds me of all the 'get rich quick!' infomercials. I should hope that everyone here understands that there is no reliable way to make money quickly with no required skillset. Same goes for women. Being successful with the ladies is a skill and can be learned, but there are no shortcuts. You gotta do it the hard way, my friend.
The good news though is that the 'hard' way isn't all that hard. Taking the initial leap is a bit daunting, yeah, but it becomes exponentially easier after that. Once you realize how baseless your fears are, the learning to talk part will come on it's own.
Anything worth having in life needs to be earned.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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