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The other night, my boyfriend and I were having sex and I was on top. I was going at a furious pace.. just right.. when I felt too close to climax and had to stop for a second.. then I went again.. this kept happening... and eventually he got out of the mood because I kept stopping. This doesn't happen to me unless I'm on top and that totally sucks because while on top.. I want to feel somewhat in control and if I can't control how soon I get my orgasms then I feel out of control. Me and him usually cum at the same time.

So, my question to you is.. how, while on top, do I control my orgasm long enough to make sure that either him and I cum at the same time or he cums before me? Should I just go ahead and climax before him and just keep going? I can have multiple orgasms.. but I feel that if I'm "in control" then it'd be seen as selfish for me to cum before him.. two or three times.