thespian86

I know this sounds too easy when we say it but life is how you percieve it man. You aren't really a "shy model" of man. There is no such thing. Man is man, and you have some innate traits but being frightened and misinformed isn't something your born with.

So here's what you do. Think about what you're good at. Be honest with yourself. Don't lie to yourself and say that you are overly good at something or enjoy something for the sake of fitting some persona you want for yourself. Don't lie to yourself and say you are bad at something because you feel it isn't as socially acceptable as baseball or reading a book (ie: model cars; accept you love gluing shit and painting it).

Now think about your weaknesses. Again, don't lie to yourself. If you aren't actually shy, don't let the little voice you've created over the years tell yourself you are. Just sit down and really think about what am I.

Then, here comes the magic part: Accept it. Accept you are who you are and be okay with it. Be okay with the fact you're an asshole (because, dude, everyone is and if everyone is then no one is). In the end you are what you want to be within the parameters of what you accept.

Here's what I accept: I am (at the moment) overly social, non-committal, manipulative, intelligent, creative, and charming. I am not incredibly handsome, super kind, tolerant, or patient. And within that I do the things that make me happy and fuck the rest.

Make the list, accept the list, do what makes you happy within that list. Done.

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EX: Whats new?
ME: I officially love coffee more then you now.
EX: uh...
ME: So, not much.