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Old 04-28-2009, 09:26 PM   #20 (permalink)
Martian
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Originally Posted by FuglyStick View Post
But when you muddle the issue of sexual orientation, you debase the gay community's pursuit of civil rights.

In a perfect world, there would be no need for laws to protect different religions, races, sexes, or sexual orientations. But the world we live in does require those laws to protect and ensure the rights of minorities. Homosexuals are persecuted, discriminated against, and victimized by hate crimes. In order to obtain that protection, homosexuality must be defined. If you water it down and say "everyone's a little homosexual," then there's no need for civil rights for homosexuals, because the laws in place for everyone would already apply, and that's simply not the case. "Labels" and "definitions" are necessary to establish what you are fighting for.

And no offense, but the sexual continuum, in my opinion, is just a lazy vindication of sexual ambiguity (I'll say it again, because if I don't say it in every post, I will inevitably be accused of homophobia--consenting adults can participate in whatever sexual behavior that they wish). The overwhelming majority of straight people are happy, well adjusted straight people with zero interest in homosexual sex; I imagine that within the gay community, a large percentage are happy, well adjusted people with zero interest in heterosexual sex.
Look, if you want to get into the whole civil rights thing we can do that. I'm more than happy to discuss when it is and is not appropriate to introduce labels and segregation of minorities. The pros and cons of different types of legislation, sure, I'm down with that.

Within the context of this thread, however, and in reference to the issue of the OP, civil rights is a non-issue. You're right that we need to label gays in order to be able to address their grievances, but that doesn't mean that everyone we apply the 'homosexual' stamp to has to be 100% homosexual 100% of the time. It's not intellectual laziness; in fact, I reckon it's the opposite of that. Trying to fit everyone into one of three boxes doesn't work. It's easier, yeah. It's much simpler to just slap a label on someone and move on with your life. And yet, that results in situations like this poor girl wondering if it's okay to be bi, and exactly how bi she ought to be. It's a fucked up situation that results from everyone trying to cram themselves into these neat little holes. The real world doesn't work like that.
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