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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
BG, there is no law against being an asshole or being a misogynistic bastard. If there are no physical signs of abuse, there are no laws being broken. If there were one single blood vessel broken, I'd be in agreement with everyone else. Until that moment happens, it is unfortunate, but it is not anyone else's business until she asks for help.
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** Not that I disagree with you entirely, but I do in part. In this case, there are many things that are currently legal, but still unethical, and some are still just wrong. Injustice is also legal, but it should be avoided and resisted wherever possible. *********
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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
You don't have any obligation to attending any events where he is present. If she continues to decline attending because he is not included, it is perfectly fine for you to explain your reasons.
There's nothing about having to accept someone's SO as your friend just because you're friends. It makes it easier, but it isn't a requirement of friendship.
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Agreed. Entirely. But this also does not require divorce from opinions, concern, or assistance.
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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
If the individual changes because they "found god" would you have the same impetus to try to dissuade them from the choice they have made? Same situations, dressed trendy, partied all the time, was fun, wore make up, SO/husband misogynistic and controlling, would you have the same desires?
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I might very well try to dissuade them. Especially if I believed, yes in my arrogance, that they did not understand or know the details of what they are getting into. If one of my friends were going to join Jim Jones, it may have THEM convinced that they have found God, but I'm sure I'd be rather skeptical.
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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
To answer your other question having had someone but into my life for such a reason, I do take umbrage from time to time on it usually when I had a rough week and would like to sit and have a beer just like any other person. Otherwise, it was a problem that was affecting my wife whom asked for assistance from friends, for that I'm grateful that I had caring friends who assisted my wife when she asked for help.
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again agreed.