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I knew the exact same guy.
Dated my friend and after a couple of months they moved in together despite everyone's wishes; she was not allowed to call home because they hated him. Every time when me or another friend called, she was accused of having a lesbian affair with one of us and she was not allowed to associate with us. She had to ask for permission to hang out with us. She had to ask for permission if she was to take a walk around when he was at work.
Eventually, she was beaten and thrown around like a rag doll. She got pregnant and he held a tighter grip on her.
After a mysterious miscarriage, she left him but went back and got pregnant again.
We have tried many times to tell her to leave him after she was hit the first time, but by then, it was too late and she was already emotionally manipulated by a guy she thought she loved.
At least this ending fares much better than most. She did leave him and she is now raising her beautiful daughter on her own with her parents (with many aunties helping)
I had only wished that I had been more vocal with "I don't like him; he is creepy" before I knew she was being hit. It is going to be a tough and arduous process for you (as a friend) to convince her out of it but don't give up.
Tell her to leave the guy. Be adamant and don't waiver on your opinion. Coming from one friend who had an abused friend to another, it is going to be real tough.
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