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Sure, sometimes I compare my husband to other people's significant others. And in every single instance that I've come across so far, I realize that I'd much rather deal with his little idiosyncrasies than anyone else's.
Your friend seems to be forgetting a crucial aspect of comparison:
You must lay out the positives along with the negatives.
Here's a little exercise that I like: since it is easier for me to think of negatives, I force myself to come up with three positives for every one negative. Once you get going, you'll start to realize that there are usually more positives to negatives - you just didn't notice them in the midst of your frustration.
Your friend is also neglecting a critical component of every successful relationship: personal growth. He assumes that later he will become frustrated with a quirk. He does not realize that perhaps later down the line, he will laugh. He will laugh at the thought that he once considered whatever-it-is as a quirk.
Sounds like your friend is a pessimistic person who is out to experience a lot of unhealthy relationships. I hope he wisens up.
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"Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq
"violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy
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