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Jimellow · 04-20-2009, 08:10 PM

Humans are unique. Generally I think the individual puts more emphasis on what it is that makes them different and assumes it will be an issue for others instead of letting them decide for themselves. Confidence also plays a role here, as you are entering a situation with lowered confidence as a result of you assuming the worst of others and their reaction to whatever trait it is that you're concerned about.

In reality, there are those that are bothered by these things, and those that aren't. If nothing else, it serves as a nice filter to find genuinely good people who like you for who you are, while exposing those that are superficial and likely to place added emphasis on these things.

People have flaws. That's what makes us people. It's normal to be insecure about these things, but generally it's blown out of proportion in one's mind, and then projected onto the presumed reactions of others, which often turns out to be false and unjustified.

Are there superficial people out there that care solely about looks? Yep, there sure are. But you likely don't want to be with them anyway, so be yourself and you'll find those that you're genuinely interested in, and they you.

04-20-2009, 08:10 PM	#62 (permalink)
Jimellow Junkie	Humans are unique. Generally I think the individual puts more emphasis on what it is that makes them different and assumes it will be an issue for others instead of letting them decide for themselves. Confidence also plays a role here, as you are entering a situation with lowered confidence as a result of you assuming the worst of others and their reaction to whatever trait it is that you're concerned about. In reality, there are those that are bothered by these things, and those that aren't. If nothing else, it serves as a nice filter to find genuinely good people who like you for who you are, while exposing those that are superficial and likely to place added emphasis on these things. People have flaws. That's what makes us people. It's normal to be insecure about these things, but generally it's blown out of proportion in one's mind, and then projected onto the presumed reactions of others, which often turns out to be false and unjustified. Are there superficial people out there that care solely about looks? Yep, there sure are. But you likely don't want to be with them anyway, so be yourself and you'll find those that you're genuinely interested in, and they you. __________________ Desperation is no excuse for lowering one's standards.