|
Well, I don't know if I can respond, but I was married for 14 years.
First of all...those warm fuzzies can ebb and flow. When you're married with small kids...warm fuzzies are far and few between. I'd like to say that I was the anomaly here, but speaking with all of my married friends, they agree, married with small kids = mostly survival mode.
Secondly, I've found that love is best when a verb and not an adjective. In other words, do loving acts and you will feel more loving. This seems counter-intuitive to our attitude of "I'd love more if *he* would do more loving acts". But it's true. I've experienced this in a number of different relationships.
Third, counseling isn't just for people on their way to the divorce lawyer. I think if more people had regular relationship "checkups" more marriages would survive.
__________________
"Never regret something that once made you smile."
|