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Suzz04 · 04-06-2009, 01:37 AM

I'm surprised like others there are quite a few families with non speaking terms.

I was in this situation with both sets of grandmothers. My parents removed me from that circle for good reasons. Though at that time, I didn't understand and parts of it I still don't. My maternal grandmother was similar to abaya's aunt. She didn't have her explosions is the difference. She did the same as her mother, keeping the siblings mad at each other. In their presence, she talked about how this one or that one didn't like them or they did this, which ended up with them glaring at the others.

Was she bipolar? We think so. The symtoms of previous generations have been quite the same. My mother and I are bipolar, but we are treated for it. So, there was that reason to be kept from them. I did give it a try to try and mend the broken ties. I'll admit maybe I didn't try very hard, but it was hard with her still doing the same thing that made us leave in the beginning. That's difficult to try and fix things when there's no effort made on the other one's side. This went on for alittle just under 20 years.

Now, my paternal grandmother is a different story. She was the little old lady that everyone loved. Why there was this rift, I really have no idea. From what I've been able to find out, it was something said when I was 4 that ticked mother off and that was it. When my daugther was born and about 2 years old, I went to try to fix that one. It went very well and I enjoyed her company up til her passing away. I wish I had gotten a longer time with her.

Do I have regrets for not being able to mend with my maternal grandmother? Not really. The effort was made and I couldn't handle her attitude. *shrug* Maybe that seems a tad harsh but it wasn't with in me to keep trying.

04-06-2009, 01:37 AM	#33 (permalink)
Suzz04 Crazy Location: Virginia	I'm surprised like others there are quite a few families with non speaking terms. I was in this situation with both sets of grandmothers. My parents removed me from that circle for good reasons. Though at that time, I didn't understand and parts of it I still don't. My maternal grandmother was similar to abaya's aunt. She didn't have her explosions is the difference. She did the same as her mother, keeping the siblings mad at each other. In their presence, she talked about how this one or that one didn't like them or they did this, which ended up with them glaring at the others. Was she bipolar? We think so. The symtoms of previous generations have been quite the same. My mother and I are bipolar, but we are treated for it. So, there was that reason to be kept from them. I did give it a try to try and mend the broken ties. I'll admit maybe I didn't try very hard, but it was hard with her still doing the same thing that made us leave in the beginning. That's difficult to try and fix things when there's no effort made on the other one's side. This went on for alittle just under 20 years. Now, my paternal grandmother is a different story. She was the little old lady that everyone loved. Why there was this rift, I really have no idea. From what I've been able to find out, it was something said when I was 4 that ticked mother off and that was it. When my daugther was born and about 2 years old, I went to try to fix that one. It went very well and I enjoyed her company up til her passing away. I wish I had gotten a longer time with her. Do I have regrets for not being able to mend with my maternal grandmother? Not really. The effort was made and I couldn't handle her attitude. shrug Maybe that seems a tad harsh but it wasn't with in me to keep trying. __________________ Quantum Cat Theory: Upon hearing the sound of a can being opened, it becomes possible for a cat to travel faster than the speed of light.