healer

I feel for people who have changed, but still have their stigma pinned to them by those around them. I can't understand why people do it though. Is it a defense mechanism? Do they fear that the person will 'go back to their old ways' and hurt them again? Is it to make them feel better about themselves?

I always commend the people who bite the bullet and fight their stigmas, especially in the face of the people trying to hold them down. It takes a special kind of person, I think, to make that change. I think you have to have a bit of "fuck y'all, I'll show you I can do it" in you. That would be my biggest motivation, if I were stigmatised.

What sucks is that the same people you've given the finger to (and succeeded), are the same people waiting for you to fail, point, and say I told you so.

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