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I've been in FB and FWB type arrangements before. Some successes, some failures. I don't think there's anything wrong with the arrangement at all, though perhaps not for everybody. I think the key to it is knowing what you want and being honest about it.
I think, in general, FB and FWB type arrangements fail and are seen as situations rife with drama and heartache because often times in these situations, discussions about expectations and desires often times don't occur because the relationship is so casual and non-binding... when in actuality, these discussions need to be had or else one person is going to make one assumption, and the other may make another, and in the end someone gets hurt. I tend to think FB and FWB end up being more tricky because often times they are non-monogamous arrangements involving people who are typically monogamous, thus can be terminated pretty swiftly if one of the people involved decides to get more seriously involved with someone else.
That said, my official stance is always to communicate what you want.... and there's nothing wrong with wanting and liking having a FWB or FB arrangement, likewise there's also nothing wrong with not wanting that either.
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