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biznatch · 04-01-2009, 09:24 PM

My father's sister had a fight with my grandmother (her mother) in her mid 20s. I don't really know why. She started out by saying she'd never speak to her parents, which she put to effect immediately, even still to this day, occasionally seeing us, but that didn't last long. My last memories of her was when I was five, I think, and after that she disappeared from my whole family's life, never speaking to any of us again.
My grandmother has searched for ways to get in touch with ever since, and so have my dad and his brothers in the first few years, sometimes several times a year, and they havn't been able to find out where she lives, or even if she still has the same name. She (my grandmother) gets very emotional about it sometimes, and it's always painful to see her talk about it, as she makes more and more mentions of herself not having much time left these days.
I think she'll be afraid until she dies of not having any form of closure, explanation or way to heal this wound. It scares the shit out of me, just the thought of it. I hope this doesn't happen to me and my kid(when I have them), or any relative, because in a few ways it'd feel almost as bad, or worse, than that relative being dead.
None of my family talks about it much, and my dad has never really spoken about how it affected him to lose a sister unexpectedly.

04-01-2009, 09:24 PM	#9 (permalink)
biznatch Junkie Location: France	My father's sister had a fight with my grandmother (her mother) in her mid 20s. I don't really know why. She started out by saying she'd never speak to her parents, which she put to effect immediately, even still to this day, occasionally seeing us, but that didn't last long. My last memories of her was when I was five, I think, and after that she disappeared from my whole family's life, never speaking to any of us again. My grandmother has searched for ways to get in touch with ever since, and so have my dad and his brothers in the first few years, sometimes several times a year, and they havn't been able to find out where she lives, or even if she still has the same name. She (my grandmother) gets very emotional about it sometimes, and it's always painful to see her talk about it, as she makes more and more mentions of herself not having much time left these days. I think she'll be afraid until she dies of not having any form of closure, explanation or way to heal this wound. It scares the shit out of me, just the thought of it. I hope this doesn't happen to me and my kid(when I have them), or any relative, because in a few ways it'd feel almost as bad, or worse, than that relative being dead. None of my family talks about it much, and my dad has never really spoken about how it affected him to lose a sister unexpectedly. __________________ Check it out: The Open Source/Freeware/Gratis Software Thread Last edited by biznatch; 04-01-2009 at 09:27 PM..