Originally Posted by belle_enigma

Okay so here's what I've had to deal with in regard to marrying other ethnicities. I'm white (mix of 6 different western european nationalities) with a Catholic background. I also was born in the US, but have dual citizenship with France too.

So I met this guy in France, we fell in love, but I soon discovered that French are very racist against Albanians. (The stereotype being that they were all drug dealers in gangs trying to find young innocent girls to kidnap and turn into prostitutes/sex slaves.) He was from Kosovo, spoke very little French, and to top it off... was a Muslim. (The Muslim stereotype being that they condone violence towards women and enslave their women as well.) More than once did my mother express to me how she viewed him to be the scum of the earth and I quote "was not like "us"".

Of course there was also the underlying issue that he may be using me to get to America, but I believe to this day that although I'm sure the idea crossed his mind all he ever wanted was to love me and be with me. Both of my parents hated the idea of him and although they let me continue the relationship as far as it could go, they truly made my life a living hell for being with him. All my friends always made dumb Muslim jokes as well and never showed any kind of support of it ever working out. My mother during the course of our relationship always said that I would be miserable because he would expect me to clean and cook and just make babies.

I ended it with him 5 months ago after trying everything I could to get him to America. Unfortunately, I don't have the money to help him or the desire to marry so I figured there was no future and that if I ended it now, he would have better luck finding someone else. However, he still calls me saying he loves me and it breaks my heart to have to ignore his calls as to not give him any hope for us when it's obvious we can't be together. I do love him though and miss him terribly.