If she is happy as she is and has never shown signs of being unhappy with her size, and you're the one who has problems with her increased size, the best thing is to be honest with her and see if it can be worked out together. If she won't do something about it, because she's fine with it, and you can't adjust to her size change, then you're the wrong guy for her and she's the wrong girl for you. It would be far worse to stay with her and continue to feel that way about her. Love her as she is or let her go. You'll destroy her self-esteem otherwise.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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