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Starkizzer · 03-10-2009, 01:11 AM

I think my main question when reading this was does your prospective wife know why it is that you have lost your sex drive? I know you say that she knew about your behavior previously and that she joined you in these exercises for a while, but does she know or realize the full implications of them or the fact that you are doing this instead of having sex with her?

I don't feel that anyone has any right to judge you for an addiction, but I do believe that those who have suggested therapy have the right idea. If this continues and you realize that it is causing detrimental effects to your relationship than that is when you have to take on some of this fault. No your not the "bad guy" but if you keep putting your partner through this then you are being selfish and will be the bad guy. Get couple counseling before you relationship suffers anymore.

Did any of the 85% of stuff have any similar thrill for you? Does any taboo activities give you this thrill. If so perhaps try focusing on those and trying to modify them to really thrill you.

Good luck buddy

03-10-2009, 01:11 AM	#17 (permalink)
Starkizzer Hi floor! Make me a samwich. Location: Ontario (in the stray cat complex)	I think my main question when reading this was does your prospective wife know why it is that you have lost your sex drive? I know you say that she knew about your behavior previously and that she joined you in these exercises for a while, but does she know or realize the full implications of them or the fact that you are doing this instead of having sex with her? I don't feel that anyone has any right to judge you for an addiction, but I do believe that those who have suggested therapy have the right idea. If this continues and you realize that it is causing detrimental effects to your relationship than that is when you have to take on some of this fault. No your not the "bad guy" but if you keep putting your partner through this then you are being selfish and will be the bad guy. Get couple counseling before you relationship suffers anymore. Did any of the 85% of stuff have any similar thrill for you? Does any taboo activities give you this thrill. If so perhaps try focusing on those and trying to modify them to really thrill you. Good luck buddy __________________ Frivolity, at the edge of a Moral Swamp, hears Hymn-Singing in the Distance and dons the Galoshes of Remorse. ~Edward Gorey Last edited by Starkizzer; 03-10-2009 at 01:16 AM..