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I'd like to take a minute to remind the lot of you that this is someone coming here looking for help, not for an irresponsible amount of ridicule. If you feel a certain way, try to be polite about a person who is opening up to us with a serious problem.
I struggled from this, and my relationship ended. I'm not going to blame and make excuses for why it ended but that's probably one of the indirect factors that at the very least affected my attitude towards how I acted around other people. I'm not saying your hopes are dashed but you certainly need to do something about the problem or you will end up without the relationship anymore. Some people are going to disagree with me, but I think that a big thing about addiction is having the ability to get over the problem by yourself and on your own willpower. This isn't to say that you are completely alone in the world, but even if you have the best network of friends, best therapists... they cannot get over YOUR addiction FOR you. You need to find a catalyst that will push you to the point of getting over your problems. There has to be something in your life that will make you realize that you need to get over the STUPID things in life. Hopefully you will ask yourself... "What is more important, watching porn or my relationship? or having a family? or succeeding with my goals?" Because with any addiction, the addiction will start to get in the way of major things in your life, and you need to get to the point where you re-evaluate your priorities.
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We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
---Aristotle
Deeds, not words, shall speak [for] me.
---John Fletcher
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