telekinetic

I wish I had clicked this thread sooner, because I had the perfect advice: Mention to him that you are trying to get [mutual friend] to go with you guys, too! Even if you really aren't and/or it doesn't pan out, it will set the tone immediately that it's not a date. I've been in a situation where it was ambiguous, and kind of awkward, until the girl in question mentioned something about how I should bring a friend of ours with.

Conversely, I've been in a situation where I went out drinking with a girl I'd been friends with, we ended up back at her place, even ended up sleeping in her bed, and I didn't 'make any moves' because I thought we were friends...heard later from a mutual friend I hurt her feelings because she thought *I* thought she wasn't attractive enough to sleep with, when in reality I was trying to respect the 'not a date' that I thought was implied by our hanging out.

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