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Originally Posted by SabrinaFair
Second of all, you describe this relationship as "not all bad" and your SO as being "really loving at times". Now, I know relationships aren't all wine and roses, but, your use of these descriptors make me nervous. Evaluate things and ask yourself how much is bad, and how often he's not "really loving". It may be more than you think.
I wish you the best of luck with this...
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That does sound bad, understand I am feeling hurt this morning.
It is usually really good, but lately it has been going badly more often and I see how he has been different. He swears he is not being affected by the small amount he is using.
I set him off this morning after I reminded him of something stupid. He reacted to me in a harsh tone. So I mentioned his daily use has made him irritable. That made him angry and he said he hadn't even used any yet today. Then we argued about it until I decided to relent and just stop the fight. He continued to speak in an angry tone. I asked him to stop, and he said I shouldn't have started the fight. I got upset again.
I didn't want to start a fight, but he did seem more on edge.
Yes I am an enabler, and I have my own problems too. You just don't realize it's happening until it is too late. I also know when you are in this deep you don't see yourself as having a problem.
Thank you all for taking the time to reply to my post. I am trying to do the right thing.
Sometimes we need to hear the things we don't want to.