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Sue · 02-27-2009, 06:05 PM

I am 100% behind Crompsin on this one. I was looking at your profile, wondering how young you are. What I can tell, which you don't seem to be listening to, is that you are going down the wrong road.

I too thought that the guy I was with before my current bf was the only one for me, and I would never get over him. He did almost the same things as your guy is doing. Guilting me over going out. Whining (literally) when I wanted to go because he couldn't (long story behind that). Calling me all the time wondering what I'm doing. I put up with that for 6 years, until one day in our relationship, he broke up with me, having felt "a certain way for a couple of months now."

So what did I do? Realized how happy I was, said see ya never again, and moved back home to Florida in 2004.

I went BACK to school, and during that time, I met a Marine. Granted, we had a long distance relationship for a while. I'm fortunate in that he has his head on straight. Went through one deployment with him in 2006. 2007, I moved to CO to be closer to him. He was discharged July that year, and we've been great ever since.

This controlling stuff has got to either end by YOU ending it altogether, or somehow, if he knows what he's doing, get himself some help to "get over it." Otherwise, even with your plans for school, living together in the summer, engagement... it will all be for nothing.

Seriously take some to think through about what you're planning. I have a bad feeling about this for you.

02-27-2009, 06:05 PM	#24 (permalink)
Sue Teufel Hunden's Freundin Location: Westminster, CO	I am 100% behind Crompsin on this one. I was looking at your profile, wondering how young you are. What I can tell, which you don't seem to be listening to, is that you are going down the wrong road. I too thought that the guy I was with before my current bf was the only one for me, and I would never get over him. He did almost the same things as your guy is doing. Guilting me over going out. Whining (literally) when I wanted to go because he couldn't (long story behind that). Calling me all the time wondering what I'm doing. I put up with that for 6 years, until one day in our relationship, he broke up with me, having felt "a certain way for a couple of months now." So what did I do? Realized how happy I was, said see ya never again, and moved back home to Florida in 2004. I went BACK to school, and during that time, I met a Marine. Granted, we had a long distance relationship for a while. I'm fortunate in that he has his head on straight. Went through one deployment with him in 2006. 2007, I moved to CO to be closer to him. He was discharged July that year, and we've been great ever since. This controlling stuff has got to either end by YOU ending it altogether, or somehow, if he knows what he's doing, get himself some help to "get over it." Otherwise, even with your plans for school, living together in the summer, engagement... it will all be for nothing. Seriously take some to think through about what you're planning. I have a bad feeling about this for you. __________________ Teg yw edrych tuag adref.