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Originally Posted by Redjake
To be honest, I would be jealous too. If you are going out with guy friends getting drunk, what is he supposed to think?
The reason he is jealous is as simple as this: the guys you hang out with, unless every one of them is gay, would fuck you sideways on a moment's notice. The only reason they are truly hanging out with you is because they want to have sex with you. Everything else comes in second place.
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Maybe the trashy guys you are friends with or hang out with or are. Don't lump normal and decent guys into this pathetic excuse of a category. I have many female friends, and though they are attractive, they are my friends, and I don't even view them as sexual beings. I am friends with them because of the same reason I am friends with my male friends; we share common interests and enjoy each others' company.
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Originally Posted by kacilinden
I met my current boyfriend online while he was deployed to Iraq. I hated talking on the phone, so we at first we communicated only through facebook (for about 6 months) and later to texting. In December, I agreed for him to drive and come see me, I backed out the day before. He told me if I wanted him to come see me, I would have to call him. So, on Christmas Day i called him and we talked on the phone everyday from then on. On January 10th, he drove to see me and that night we "became official". He lives in North Carolina, about 500 miles away. He drives down every weekend possible, which is at least every other weekend.
Now that you have the background information, I go to college at the second biggest party school in Georgia, it is my second year here. I have almost all guy friends. The girl friends I do have all have boyfriends that go here, so they are not around much. Anyways, my boyfriend has been married before and his ex-wife cheated on him with 20 guys while he was in iraq. He knows I won't cheat on him, and says he trusts me, but not other people, even though they are my friends. I tell him (basically ask permission) whenever I go anywhere, I tell him where I am, who i'm with, what i'm doing, I even call and text him the whole time, and told him i didnt mind at all if he called me whenever he wanted to. Anytime I want to go somewhere he tells me he doesn't like it but to go anyway, because he has to get over it. However, EVERY SINGLE TIME, we end in an argument, about how I'm out with other dudes and that's not right, I end up crying, and just going home early with a ruined night.It's far worse if he knows I'm drinking. He goes out almost every night drinking with his marine friends, and I don't mind at all. But "it's okay because he is with guy friends". i even told him I wouldnt mind if he hung out with girls because i trust him 100%.
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Don't you think there's maybe a reason his former wife cheated on him? Whether it be to get revenge for him being such a piece of trash, or because she felt free from his control when he was deployed, he obviously is not marriage material. Furthermore, judging from his deployment and enlistment record you are alluding to, he is at least five years older than you. Now normally, I'd say no biggie, but considering you are a sophomore in college, and he's been around the world, anyone with common sense would see the red flags there.
That's cool that you're in love, everyone falls in love. But, for the most part, you're not going to have a happy marriage if you force and guilt yourself into marrying your first true love.
I think women such as yourself who find themselves addicted to an abusive relationship need counseling. Make no mistake, you are being emotionally abused. You said you end up crying every time you go out because of him. That is abuse, through and through. There's something wrong with a person who feels they should be guilted and abused.
It's not your fault that you are attracted to an abusive relationship, however it is
ENTIRELY your fault if you do not seek help and try to break that bad and harmful habit.