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Old 02-27-2009, 04:41 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by kacilinden View Post
Another thing is, he guilts me when I go out [...]
Okay, stop it right there.

This isn't something you should take lightly, especially knowing what you know.

Guilt is the prime weapon used in emotional abuse.

You've just told us he's trying to manipulate you into a certain pattern of behaviour--one that would benefit him and would make your life suck.

It goes downhill from there.

He has deep issues regarding his previous relationship. We can understand that. But don't let him drag you down with him.

It isn't worth it.

Ask yourself this: Would you be better off without him? Does he make you a better person?
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