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/Raises the dead
We decided to live a life without the internet at home, or television for that matter, and thus I've lost my TFP for a long while. I didn't want to leave this hanging, even though it seems to be too little, too late. I want to wrap this up now, and return to a life of posting, since I've discovered the free Wi-Fi at the local library.
The thought expressed by Charlatan of infantilization of said future wife completely undermined my train of thought of showing respect for her father. It suddenly became apparent just how disrespectful it was to my potential fiancee's autonomy. I wanted her father's approval, but not to the extent that I was willing to forego my plans with his daughter simply because he objected to them. I have always said that being honest is more important that being polite and to really 'put my money where my mouth is', I decided to forgo the antiquated ritual of paternal consent.
I asked her, about 4 months after my original post, she accepted and not once did the issue come up, until the next weekend when we made the long journey to her hometown. Apparently, it was not as important to her as I initially anticipated. We told her parents, they seemed genuinely accepting, if not outright pleased(they're both tough reads, and i'm not very good at reading people anyhow). After our weekend I found out from her that whilst I was out of the house she talked with her dad and he claimed he was grateful that I did not ask, because the whole ritual would have just been very awkward to him, and he was at least pleased that I did have some concern for his opinion in the matter. +1 for fate (& TFP) I guess.
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