Lets just say it friends: "Nice Guys" are assholes too. Just different roads to the same spot.
"Nice Guy" is as much a bullshit persona and facade as "Bad Boy" or "Sardonic Jew" or "Preppy Asshole". No, I'm not going on some 20 year old tirade about labels that will not hit the mark. I mean this idea of a projected personal identity. Restricting yourself personally/sexually/emotionally and adding superfluous, regimented lifestyle choices that turn you into something, not someone. Your "stock character". The person who you act as every day. Not the person you are so much as the person you have decided will get you further, with the least amount of collateral damage and the easiest path. Like you've adapted over time because of given circumstances that were completely relative and opinion based but to you (the collective "you") it is just "truth". I used to be the "Nice Guy" as well as the "Sardonic Jew" and I was dating a "Shiksa Goddess" and going to a "Forward Thinking Liberal Arts School".
The thing is people are people. They like and dislike things. If you like bending over backwards for someone that doesn't make you a "nice guy". That makes you a guy. If you refuse to spurn your own ideologies or principles for the sake of someone else that doesn't make you a "selfish asshole" or a "commitmaphobe". You're just a guy. Or a girl.
So yes. Stray away from it. Just be.
Otherwise: The Nice Guy is someone who allows others easy and unlimited access to all of their resources, even if its in spite of himself. A boy (note: not a man) who uses guilt, self-victimization, and "neurosis" as a form of manipulation to control those around him. He is delusional and often puppy like. He is sad.
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EX: Whats new?
ME: I officially love coffee more then you now.
EX: uh...
ME: So, not much.
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