here's the deal... women want attention. but they also want attention that's worth something, and not freely given to any other woman out there. they want to feel like they've earned the attention or at least deserve it. regardless of what women say they want, they will most certainly walk all over you if you continually point out that you're a door mat for them.
The truth is that a lot of this stuff is hard-wired. and it's true that certain things like backhanded compliments and small shots at girls self-esteem will draw them to you more than holding the door for them open at a restaurant.
i suggest you learn how to be more seductive if that's what you want. i'm not saying to go and learn how to be an asshole and pickup dozens of women and sleep with them. i'm just saying learn how to steer the dynamics of communication and chemistry toward what you really want out of a girl, whether that be a few dates or a real lasting relationship. you're not being manipulative if you genuinely like a girl and you happen to know how to make her comfortable and handle social situations.
finally, don't settle for being a just-friend. be sensitive that energy, and if you find yourself pigeon-holed into that role, get the hell away from that girl because that window is closed and will remain a one-way street.
edit: "The Art of Seduction" is a great book that's more about social psychology than being a pickup artist.... there's about a dozen profiles chronicled in it, and you're bound to identify with one much like your astrological sign. study up on the type that works for you and accentuate those things in your interactions.
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