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Originally Posted by pan6467
A wife would tell her husband how much she loved him and how happy she was he wasn't really hurt..... right? She wouldn't go to bed with her last words being to her husband, maybe we just shouldn't talk anymore ever...... right? Right????????????
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Pan, I feel that asking what "a wife" would tell "her husband" blank blank blank, isn't really answerable. We are all different people and none of us really know what anyone else's "true" relationship or marriage is behind closed doors.
I myself worry every freaking day about my husband from the moment he leaves at 4:30-5:30am with an hour drive to work and back, to when he comes home 12-14 hrs. later. He travel's a lot for work and I worry constantly. Sometimes he gets to a plant and is caught up with work or, if he rarely has a co-worker traveling with him, he is distracted (happy to have company and not thinking about home) and forgets to call me and update me on his hotel room # or even if he's okay (I always track his flight's, so I know he landed safely).
I admit I can go off the deep end sometimes if I haven't heard from him. Especially if an airline has crappy updates on delay's and flight status. If hubby is fine on his end, he doesn't realize how worried I am on mine and can act like it's no big deal when I finally get through to him. I admit that sometime's my worry can instantly transform into anger towards him when I finally get contact with him.
My concern for you is you saying that her last words to you before going to bed were "Maybe we just shouldn't talk anymore ever". In my 20 yr. marriage, we've had rough times but never such a brick wall statement to each other as that. Only you can determine if that is a much bigger problem in your marriage or a one time response. My explination in the previous paragraph was to point out that maybe that is her irrational response to the thought that her love has been in danger and maybe put himself in MORE danger by the way he responded.
You work in that environment day in and day out, you have a base ablility to judge a situation and respond according to your experience. It seems to me that even YOU were spooked and upset by the experience, therefore I have to ask how you think she should've responded?
Ali