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You want someone, but I'm not so sure it's her. Maybe it's the idea of her. Or her secondary sex characteristics. Or the emotional satisfaction that we often fabricate when we're allowed to engage in the reproductive hip thrust dance. "Man, I just got laid and that totally means I'm a normal manly-man." That "walkin'-on-sunshine!" self-validation that's mostly puffed up bullshit. You don't need it to be successful and if you got it, you'd probably still be just as confused as you are now.
I'd recommend fortifying yourself with hobbies and guy friends. You're stressing yourself out with your own imaginary time line. Getting into one person too deep here, hoss. Nobody, and I mean nobody, is that unique/special/gnarly... because if they were, they wouldn't want to waste their time on someone who's neglecting themselves and may/may not be building a closet shrine.
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BTW: Screw E-Harmony. It's for Jeebus-lovers and old people (no offense to either category, but seriously). You need to sign on to OkCupid or PlentyOfFish and post half a dozen pictures of your bad self, throw up some grammatically-correct paragraphs detailing your eclectic interests / hobbies and your life goals. Easy, free, and good to go. Also consider yourself in the pictures you have of yourself: are you doing anything that makes you look interesting? If not, you should change that first 'n pronto before you try to lure in a partner. What do you bring to the table? If a quick self inventory reveals that it ain't much, that's the source of your problem - not relationship woes. Other people don't complete us as human beings, they just complement us really well sometimes. You need to a stand alone genuine article before anything else.
I think it should be mandatory that nervous adults hook up with someone they'll never see again as their introductory encounter to the opposite sex. No shame, no bullshit, and no worries later.
It worked for me, anyway.
Despite the smooth spot.
Last edited by Plan9; 02-14-2009 at 10:41 PM..
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