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Originally Posted by ASU2003
If you want a real life situation to ponder, here it is. I'm going down to Florida in March. I'm sure there will be plenty of drunk spring break college girls where I am going. If the opportunity for random one night spring break sex with a hot girl comes up, would you choose that over possibly finding a girl in my home town and having a good relationship, but always wondering what else is out there? Or there was this bi-sexual girl that lives a few hours away that I might be able to have a relationship with who would probably be open to finding another girl, even though I would be fine with not sleeping with the second girl. It would make some things better having three people, but also cause a few problems.
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How are those things mutually exclusive? How does having casual sex on spring break preclude you from eventually finding a girl in your home town? Or from having sex with the "bi-girl?"
In any case, I still think that you should worry less about the type and more about the person. I wasn't looking for something permanent when I met my wife. Heck, considering it was long distance at the time, I wasn't even looking for something that went beyond a weekend. But it felt right, and I've been with her for 10 years. Had I decided back then that I wanted relationship style X over Y, I would have missed out.
Similarly, I know several people who would love to have found "the one," but because no one has worked for them yet, they've been "serial monogamists." It would suck for them if they stuck around someone that didnt work for them simply because they were hung up on the idea that they should have a lifetime commitment to someone.
And the one swinging couple I know... well, it shocked the hell out of me when the guy told me they had decided to take up swinging. It shocked me even more when they actually liked it and kept on doing it. And I guarantee that at least one of them had no idea they'd be up for that when they started.
Bottom line is, you wont know what you like unless you try it, and if midway through your experimentation you find "the one," or "the two" and it works for you, you wont regret it.