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Hyacinthe · 01-23-2009, 11:03 PM

I agree with you guys in a sense I really do because sure occasionally a girl / woman isn't in the mood but a few touches here or there can change that and all she has to do is sit back and let you work for a few min til she's interested enough to start reciprocating. Or hell go out on a limb and think "well why not it's only a couple of hrs or so of sleep I'll loose"

If it was a few times a week (up to 4 - 5) then I don't have a problem with that - heck I think most of the time in my relationships it has been the other way around - I tend to be the one jumping my partner. I just don't agree with the idea of sex on demand solely from a female partner which is what has been suggested in this thread. If you want to have that then you also need to accept that what is good for the goose is good for the gander and if you're not in the mood and your other half wants some then you have to be willing to perform to.

My major argument with the OP in this was the fact that he wants sex everyday from his GF but is obviously not fulfilling what she wants from the relationship. So if he's not willing to try to give her what she wants out of the relationship (emotional closeness) then why should she give him what he wants? Petty most definitely but people are unfortunately like that some times, I like to tell myself it's probably subconciously because otherwise it's way too depressing. And ofcourse the "I can't sleep without sex comment" sorry but that struck me as ridiculous and hence was the reason I made an undiplomatic comment - the rest of my post was actually meant to be practical advice on how to meet his GF's needs so she'd be more willing to meet his.

Relationships are about give and take from both parties, that means that unless you're in a lifetime D&s relationship it should not be entirely about EITHER participant in the relationship but about both of you.

Not being American and having met very few Americans except online I can't say much about American women specifically but I know that I and my female associates / friends here don't want guys to act as servants. We want a strong man, mentally, emotionally and morally. Someone who will call us on our BS.

I've had relationships where all I got was a yes man someone who will agree with me and do what i want without question - they drive me mental! If I wanted unconditional surrender and love I would get a puppy not a partner.

Basically guys don't tar all women with that single brush - sure there are women out there like that but there are also men who look at women and see nothing but a couple of warm holes for their pleasure - I / We don't judge you to their standard so please don't judge us by theirs.

01-23-2009, 11:03 PM	#85 (permalink)
Hyacinthe Psycho Location: Australia	I agree with you guys in a sense I really do because sure occasionally a girl / woman isn't in the mood but a few touches here or there can change that and all she has to do is sit back and let you work for a few min til she's interested enough to start reciprocating. Or hell go out on a limb and think "well why not it's only a couple of hrs or so of sleep I'll loose" If it was a few times a week (up to 4 - 5) then I don't have a problem with that - heck I think most of the time in my relationships it has been the other way around - I tend to be the one jumping my partner. I just don't agree with the idea of sex on demand solely from a female partner which is what has been suggested in this thread. If you want to have that then you also need to accept that what is good for the goose is good for the gander and if you're not in the mood and your other half wants some then you have to be willing to perform to. My major argument with the OP in this was the fact that he wants sex everyday from his GF but is obviously not fulfilling what she wants from the relationship. So if he's not willing to try to give her what she wants out of the relationship (emotional closeness) then why should she give him what he wants? Petty most definitely but people are unfortunately like that some times, I like to tell myself it's probably subconciously because otherwise it's way too depressing. And ofcourse the "I can't sleep without sex comment" sorry but that struck me as ridiculous and hence was the reason I made an undiplomatic comment - the rest of my post was actually meant to be practical advice on how to meet his GF's needs so she'd be more willing to meet his. Relationships are about give and take from both parties, that means that unless you're in a lifetime D&s relationship it should not be entirely about EITHER participant in the relationship but about both of you. Not being American and having met very few Americans except online I can't say much about American women specifically but I know that I and my female associates / friends here don't want guys to act as servants. We want a strong man, mentally, emotionally and morally. Someone who will call us on our BS. I've had relationships where all I got was a yes man someone who will agree with me and do what i want without question - they drive me mental! If I wanted unconditional surrender and love I would get a puppy not a partner. Basically guys don't tar all women with that single brush - sure there are women out there like that but there are also men who look at women and see nothing but a couple of warm holes for their pleasure - I / We don't judge you to their standard so please don't judge us by theirs. __________________ "I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken... and the one that could brighten up your day even if she couldnt brighten her own" "Her emotions were clear waters. You could see the scarring and pockmarks at the bottom of the pool, but it was just a part of her landscape – the consequences of others’ actions in which she claimed no part."