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Originally Posted by nooly
wow, talk about enthusiastically missing the point.
you said it yourself: "women have a fundamental need for mostly emotional attention and men have the same need of physical affection."
the point that has been made repeatedly on this thread is that a man shouldn't expect 'sex on demand' (nice, by the way) without fulfilling the emotional needs of his partner.
the fact that you frame female reluctance towards sex as 'withholding...as punishment or as a weapon' indicates a certain level of immaturity in your outlook which is amply reflected in the rest of your post.
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i never said anything about a one-way street. my whole point is that it's just as wrong if a guy watches tv while his gf tells him about her day or a an argument she had with a co-worker as it is for a woman to hold out sex on a guy.
maybe i could use more flowery language than "on-demand" or "weapon", but regardless of the degree of power or how good it might feel, holding back the implicit things that we sign on to provide our gf or bf is never anything but destructive to the bond you're trying to build on to begin with. and unfortunately this happens all too often because these things are left undefined going into a relationship. therefore i personally try to hash that out in communication up front and i recommend that to anyone else.
the biggest reason people end up feeling stifled or crushed by commitments and relationshops they're in is that they haven't defined what that means to them