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I actually just made contact with mine after more or less 25 yrs.... it's a weird feeling. At first I was kinda walkin' on air for a day or so, just cause the emails were friendly. Then some of the exchanges reminded me a bit of why things didn't work out in the first place. Which makes it a lot easier not to build up any stress over it. And we are both happily married with kids, which also makes it easier not to care.
As to what gratification? Um, I cared a lot about her once upon a time, and the breakup wasn't so harsh as to scour that completely. I would rather be friends... and they say that as you get older, the people who "knew you when..." get more important. It's nice to know where she is and that she's ok.
Anyway, we're planning to get together sometime soonish. My wife is fine with it, we see her exes every year -- her mom usually has people over during holidays and there'll be like 3 of them there. Which is odd if you think about it too much, but again, it was all 20-25 yrs ago.
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