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Old 01-10-2009, 06:21 AM   #50 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Iliftrocks View Post
Almost my experience exactly. My quite healthy sex drive was killed during my marriage. I quit pressuring her for sex, and gave her massages, made her dinner, etc. etc. She just took my lack of insistence as a get out of sex free card, and just quit. I became self-sufficient, heh ( and ouch ). Getting sex out of a sense of duty isn't much better, if it is, than masturbation......

But damn man, 2 or 3 times a week is GOOD!!!! Try 2 or 3 times a year


EDIT: Before I sound like a complete douche.... I stuck it out for years, and finally we're divorced. I have reason to believe that her lack of drive was that I was the wrong gender for her. I learned this from evidence on my computer that she left behind. Wish she felt confident enough in me to tell me, but I guess it takes time..... I still love her, and don't blame her for what she has no control over, but the damage ( mostly self esteem ) seems to be done to me. More time for hobbies I guess..... My experience is not universal


Everyone is basically telling this guy to stop pressuring his girlfriend to have sex. I think good advice, better ways to get the pussy than putting pressure on it!

But i have a feel this post above is what the reality is for most men in similar situations, not that the women is the closest/denial like above but that if he stops pressuring it will go to zero sex life.

Not sure what to say, but i think 2-3 times a week is not that bad assuming a busy schedule...etc.



there are two people in a relationship (or three if your ratbastid). A lot of the responses make it seem like he is to give up everything he wants and wait on her hand and foot in hopes the pussy carrot comes out in the end. Or if he simple turns off his sexual desires she'll become an animal!

Someday like above those men will realize there giving everything, giving up everything but getting nothing back in return. A relationship consists of two people's wants/needs and desires. If someone's is not being fulfilled then trouble is a brewing regardless of how many times you do the laundry or take her out to dinner.
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