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I agree that in no way should it be all about one person in the relationship. For instance, while im2smrt4u may not get sex nearly as often as he would like I try to show him I appreciate him and love him in other ways. I cook us diner every night, I do the laundry, go with him to by his fancy beers (can't carry very many on a motorcycle) and the list goes on. He does nice things for me as well and while we may not always do what the other person would like to show our love to each other we do try and know that the things we do are out of love.
So now its just a matter of tweaking what we do to be more in line with what the other person would like. Steven's late grandma, I miss that woman, said she read a book that talked about how every one feels love in different ways and needs those things to feel truly loved. For some it is touch, others its time, talking, etc. I think there were 5 in total but I don't remember them all. Steven is definitely touch while I am time and talking. Its important to figure out what the other person needs and what you need as well.
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Frivolity, at the edge of a Moral Swamp, hears Hymn-Singing in the Distance and dons the Galoshes of Remorse. ~Edward Gorey
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