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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414
Ask not what your relationship can do for you, ask what you can do for your relationship.
Seriously, your entire OP is focused on "me, me, me!" I found my marriage to be far more fulfilling when I learned that it was my job to "give" to my wife. When you want to give, you suddenly listen to what you need to give. This creates a better understanding of your mate and your focus on giving and making her life easier will eliminate many of the stressors that disrupt her life and intimacy. Take your focus off of what you want, and you may just end up with the exact thing THAT you want. Your "me, me, me" attitude is the common element to countless failed relationships world-wide.
Disclaimer: Focusing on giving should not mean allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.
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Thanks for the disclaimer. A lot of the posts here, not just in this thread, SEEM to imply that you should just do everything for the woman, BUT there are two people in a relationship. What is the woman doing for you? ( please don't just read sex into that, either ) It's just as important for a man to be treasured by his partner, right? Quite often men get left out of that equation, and all they have left is sex, which is pitiful.
But again, be realistic, there are pressures ( on both people ) and they are not always conducive to a teenage-type sextravaganza. If sex truly drops down to zero, and it can, let me tell you, then you really do have a problem.
bill hicks - "I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out."
heh