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Old 01-03-2009, 02:02 AM   #12 (permalink)
Hyacinthe
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I love her and i want to be with her
To me that says everything that needs to be said. If you really love this girl then you should atleast attempt to be with her, not for her sake, for yours, because if you don't then you'll always wonder.

Worst thing that could happen is you get back together she cheats on you again and you realise that she doesn't feel the same way you do and you move on.

Or she could have realised that she's made a terrible mistake and how much you mean to her and you could live happily ever after (not that I believe in the whole riding into the sunset ending). Her wanting to take some time could be her trying to figure out whether she's willing to make the commitment and actually mean it this time.

You make it sound as though she's doing you some kind of favour or sacrificing something by being in a relationship with you so one thing I want you to keep in mind is that YOU are taking HER back. She is not doing you any favours by deciding to be with you, she f'd up. She is lucky you are even enterntaining the thought of trusting her again. Either you both want to be together or you should not be.

If this relationship is going to work you need to realise that unless otherwise decided you are (or in my humble opinion should be) equals in the relationship. Don't let her hang the end of the relationship over your head like some kind of ultimate punishment, and don't let yourself be afraid to end it if you think she's treating you badly. If she's doing so she's not worth your time and love.You lived before she was in your life, you'll live if she decides to leave it, it'll just hurt for a bit.

Fact is you're the only one that can make the decision as to whether or not you can forgive what she has done and whether you're willing to take the risk of suffering that emotional anguish again if she cheats on you.
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