Daniel_

Whilst I agree that it may have seemed overly hard, I think that the thread has gone deeper than the simple (but true) advice that he should reduce the pressure.

I think that there were some good points raised here about communication, satisfaction, the insidiousness of being romantic only in order that she have sex (or if not "only" then at least "partly").

My take on this thread is that the OP is in a place many of us have inhabited previously and some of us were trying to show him the map of how to get out of it.

"Take care of it yourself" is a METHOD, but it's not a ROUTE.

I hope that makes sense.

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