Originally Posted by JumpinJesus

This was the only response necessary. All the belittling and trivializing that went on in this thread served no purpose.

The guy posts two genuine posts in this thread, and gets treated like a creep who's verging on emotionally raping his girlfriend.

What purpose did that serve?

Originally Posted by spectre

Seeing as I happen to be one of the few who bothered to read the original post before responding, I'll tell you what would have been the standard answer that people used to give around here before the norm became dog-piling on a new member who happened to ask a fair question: communicate.

As ratbastid *used* to say, the first sign of trouble in a relationship is a sudden change in the frequency of sex.

Talk with her. At the foundation of every solid relationship is good communication skills. From the sounds of it, something is going on there that she just isn't comfortable saying. You need to let her know that it's okay for her to be honest and talk about it. She may not open up completely right away, but it's the only way to resolve this. Bottling everything up, for either and/or both of you, is a sure path towards resentment and further problems down the road.

Yes, the mass of postings saying you won't always get laid because you've got a hard-on are correct, but from the sounds of it, you already knew that, you just want to figure out what happened, and that's fair to ask as it's a sudden and unexpected change.


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And now, an off-topic rant about the rest of this thread. I can't even begin to express the level of disappointment I have in this thread right now, but I'm not the least bit surprised. I've been on this site for a long time, at least twice as long as many who like to wax nostalgic about, "the good old days." When the hell did every post become one giant circle-jerk where the entire purpose was for everyone to pounce on the new members who happen to ask a question that doesn't fit into the group-think's narrow world view?

It's these sorts of attack posts on newer members that continue to alienate new members and drive long standing ones away in disgust. You don't agree with the guy, fine, say so, but don't beat and belittle him into the ground and then continue to stomp on him.

That's why I don't bother posting much any more. Seems kind of futile to be the only one who wants to bother to help people while everyone else seems to enjoy ripping them to shreds just to feel better about themselves.