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ramone · 01-01-2009, 06:48 PM

Sabrina,

As I think of it, there is a continuum from One Night Stand > Booty Call > Fuck Buddy > Friends With Benefits > relationship (or Dating) > Relationship (or Romance) > Love Of My Life...

There's a certain point, in any interaction, that I stop worrying about the other getting hurt. I am pretty clear on what it means to me, both with myself and the other, but there have been cases where it's become clear to me (usually despite their protestations) that they are seeking something from me that I am not willing to give...

At that point- which I generally find more likely in either FB or Dating- I'll make a point of pretty coldly assessing whether I value the interaction more than I dislike having differing agendas- Usually, it's just not worth the hassle, and I drop it.

FWB, though, have actually been, for me, the sources of the greatest support, comfort, and real love in my life- as in most cases, while the sex stops at some point, the real affection and knowledge of each other only deepen with the years passing. For me, in the long run, FWB are the least of my regrets.

I hope this one is that good for you.

Stay Warm,
Ramone

01-01-2009, 06:48 PM	#22 (permalink)
ramone Upright Location: Long Island, South Shore, central Suffolk	Sabrina, As I think of it, there is a continuum from One Night Stand > Booty Call > Fuck Buddy > Friends With Benefits > relationship (or Dating) > Relationship (or Romance) > Love Of My Life... There's a certain point, in any interaction, that I stop worrying about the other getting hurt. I am pretty clear on what it means to me, both with myself and the other, but there have been cases where it's become clear to me (usually despite their protestations) that they are seeking something from me that I am not willing to give... At that point- which I generally find more likely in either FB or Dating- I'll make a point of pretty coldly assessing whether I value the interaction more than I dislike having differing agendas- Usually, it's just not worth the hassle, and I drop it. FWB, though, have actually been, for me, the sources of the greatest support, comfort, and real love in my life- as in most cases, while the sex stops at some point, the real affection and knowledge of each other only deepen with the years passing. For me, in the long run, FWB are the least of my regrets. I hope this one is that good for you. Stay Warm, Ramone __________________ I used to care... but things have changed. Last edited by ramone; 01-01-2009 at 06:55 PM..