I am sooo glad this post was started and I am eternally grateful to all the wise and mature men who have answered this. im2smrt4u and I have been having this discussion lately, it cracks me up. He told me about the post and said that he knew he was never gonna live down the fact that so many people said what I have been saying.
I love the boy!
To the OP listen to her and to everyone else here they are wise people and you can learn a lot from them, I know I have. My guy has the same problem it seems, I can always tell when he is wanting/needing some because his mood is very distinctive during these times. I HATE his attitude during these times hes moppy and grouchy and more bitter than usual, is there a chance that you are acting in a similar fashion? If so I can tell you from experience this makes me want to have sex even less. You don't give your kid a cookie when they are throwing a tantrum why do you expect to get sex when your acting this way?
We are 24 have been dating for 6yrs, I was a fiend in the beginning, think I wanted it more than he did. Flashforward six years, I am more stressed, on bc, work, and go to school. Plus to top it all off hes a day person and I'm a night owl, I am horny at 1am, hes in a deep coma by that point. Realize that after this long in a relationship she is comfortable and take comfort in the fact that shes happy just to have you around and sit and keep her company.
Don't push sex, sex shouldn't be the most important thing in a relationship, if it is your relationship will fail. Sex fades true understanding love will only grow. If all you have nourished is your sex life when that fades away you will be left staring at each other wondering what the hell happened. Her sex drive will at some point over take yours...be prepared and hope karma doesn't come back to bite you in the ass.