ratbastid my admiration for you only seems to increase every time I read one of your posts. If you didn't already have the (is it now up to 4 with
Janie and
dlish?) partner I would ask to marry you as well but now you won't have any time for me
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All the time. I tell her she is beautiful, give her hugs and kisses, take walks, cook meals, buy flowers. All without expecting anything, but it is like she does not hear them
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That sentence there and the fact that you did not mention that you were even attempting to be romantic during the original post leads me to believe that you're not trying at all until she mentions it and then you're over doing it. That just leads to more pressure on her, because she knows you don't actually mean any of the little romantic gestures they're just a slightly more suave version of walking up clubbing her over the head and dragging her into your cave for sexorz.
If you have the spare time try to organise a class or something that you know she will like - it gives you two some time together in a social situation where at the same time you're spending personal time together away from your 'normal' social circle. That means you two have time together doing something that she enjoys and will relax her where there is NO pressure on her sexually.
That says that you just want to spend time with her because you love her, not for sex. That's what she's asking for.
As for the woe is me attitude when she's having her period - get over it. Believe it or not a period is not necessarily painless, you can get amazingly intense stomach cramps that can travel all the way through to your spine, nausea, headaches, stabbing pains actually through your genitalia and no matter how you sit, lie, stand you're going to feel miserable for a few days. Hot water bottles and chocolate don't always cut it.
So is any wonder that while she's undergoing this she doesn't feel like jumping you, especially if she becomes more sensitive sexually when she's menstruating? Maybe sexual congress is actually p[ainful for her at that time and you should be freaking grateful she's willing to give you BJ's or hand jobs during that time?
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Sex is not only a way for me to feel connected to her but I cannot sleep without it.
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BS - if you're tired you'll sleep whether you've had sex or not. An erection is not the mysterious magical thing you seem to be making it out to be. Take your cock off the pedestal you've placed it on and understand that its every desire doesn't have to be fulfilled.