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I have the same problem with my boyfriend, and f6twister hit the nail on the head. She just has a lower sex drive than you. That is all. Nothing more.
She likely feels very pressured, stressed out about it, and it probably will feel more like a chore to her the more you fight about it. It's a vicious circle, and to break it you have to accept things a bit more. Namely, sex 2-3 times a week isn't "sex life has gone with the wind." Many couples have sex much less than that and manage not to have a crisis over the fact. Yes, it's less than you're used to, but I don't understand why both you and my boyfriend think that sex and libido is going to remain at a constant high for the rest of the relationship. Of course you have sex more often at the start of the relationship. Everything is new, both partners are incredibly excited, and you wouldn't have experienced the heartache that comes with a long-term relationship.
To get you thinking about her point of view, have you thought about what it would be like if you couldn't get it up as often as you used to, and your girlfriend started to get on your case about it. I could be wrong, but I don't imagine it would make you feel very good about yourself, or very willing to have sex.
Of course, I don't know the details, and it's very hard to understand a problem thoroughly without the other person's side. Neither have I found a solution to this problem in my own relationship. But I am just warning from personal experience that if the situation continues as is, at best she will take off and hate you, at worst you will have the crumbling ruins of what used to be a great relationship, and the damage will take years to repair.
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