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Originally Posted by Xerxys
Why only 2 replies out of 61 views? Should this thread be in off the wayside or is this topic that insurmountably incomprehensible without experience?
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Yeah, I actually think it's the latter.
The first people lurkette and I "were poly" with, the husband is a classic submissive masochist. Literally cannot orgasm without pain. And it was... incomprehensible to me. Even after watching it several times, I still just can't really fathom it.
I like the way Hyacinthe says it--it really is something you either get or you don't. In his case, he's very clear the incidents in his early childhood that associated pain and arousal for him. It's a hard-wired association for him, and it's not for me, and ultimately, we all concluded, that's just the way it is.
He'd actually be very happy being a lifestyle submissive, but she wants a partner, not a pet. Still, she finds it useful; when there are dishes to be done, for instance, the right kind of sharp instruction from her gets them done very quickly.