Baraka_Guru

For the record, I was the one who brought up the issue of legitimacy. I was arguing that the refusal to broaden the definition of marriage as "one man and one woman" to include "one man and another man" and "one woman and another woman" implies that these latter types of relationships are illegitimate (both legally and socially/sexually). It says, "You can't get married because you aren't a real couple." And since marriage is often viewed as a kind of social acceptance of a couple, barring gays and lesbians from marriage suggests a social denial of gay and lesbian couples as a legitimate unit suitable for long-term monogamy around which a family may be built.

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