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You say that you don't know what love is, this is likely true as most people don't. Even those who've experienced it. I would explain that to her first. Often women enjoy hearing 'I love you' from their SO, but if you don't mean it, things can get nasty. Just be honest and explain that you don't know what it means and don't feel comfortable saying it without meaning it. She should respect that as you've shown her respect with your honesty.
Adjust your self image. Find something that you do really well and are confident doing. It doesn't matter what it is; solving a math problem, writing, building an engine, cooking, detailing your car.......etc. It is most likely something that you really enjoy doing and have been doing for a long time. Now pay attention to the way you feel while you're doing it, so you have an idea of what confidence feels like. Use that confidence every day and soon you will just be confident. It may sound strange, but it works. And as mentioned above, confidence attracts people like flies. If you begin to feel nervous or insecure, just think about your 'thing' (no not that thing, the thing that makes you confident) and your confidence will rise. People will see you in a whole new light, even people you've know your whole life will ask you 'what you've done different'.
Another great way to build confidence, since you say this girl really likes you. Ask her what she likes about you. She may see things that you over look. Having someone who cares for you, tell you what they like about you is a great confidence builder.
A bit of a side note. People say power is the ultimate aphrodisiac, not true. Confidence is the ultimate aphrodisiac as long as it doesn't become arrogance.
Strip clubs are over rated. If you're going just to hang out with your friend, great, go. If you're going because you want an anatomy lesson, don't bother. Whatever you decide, be honest with the girl and tell her BEFORE you go. Some women are alright with strip clubs, but some hate them. The last thing you want is to start a relationship on a lie that will be found out later. Yes, eventually all lies become known. Tell her or don't go.
Hope that helps.
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