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Originally Posted by girldetective
I wonder why it is that after hearing a million cajillion nice things about oneself from one person, why it is that just one mean thing, even unintentionally said perhaps, can devastate one and change that relationship forever. How can one thing said in haste or despair or anger or grief negate or cancel out all the other good things said over months or years or decades?
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Because, that negative thing said has aggravated an old wound within us that has never fully healed.
It could be, the person who said that negative thing isn't the same person who inflicted that old wound. It could be, the negative thing said is far lesser in comparison to the great thing that was used to inflict that old wound. It could also be, the negative thing said isn't even really related to that old wound; at least, not directly. It could even be, we are not even conscious that
that old wound still exists. Even so, that old wound is aggravated – and it hurts. And thus the pain, and our reaction, is greater than what the negative thing said really warrants.