Originally Posted by little_tippler

I think this is a betrayal on the part of your wife. You made plans, you had an "agreement" of sorts. This is not really something you just change your mind on over a whim. Talk to her, she can't just impose this on you for no good reason. Especially if she has been misleading you for years - was she misleading you, hoping to change your mind, or did she change her mind over something that happened? It's not really fair.

You clearly have a choice to make. She gave you an ultimatum, in a sense, which is never a good thing. Her, or kids, with someone else. If you feel that you will not come to resent her in the future, and that "just" her, will be enough for you, then you can just accept it. If not...it's time to look at your life and make some changes.