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I think this is a betrayal on the part of your wife. You made plans, you had an "agreement" of sorts. This is not really something you just change your mind on over a whim. Talk to her, she can't just impose this on you for no good reason. Especially if she has been misleading you for years - was she misleading you, hoping to change your mind, or did she change her mind over something that happened? It's not really fair.
You clearly have a choice to make. She gave you an ultimatum, in a sense, which is never a good thing. Her, or kids, with someone else. If you feel that you will not come to resent her in the future, and that "just" her, will be enough for you, then you can just accept it. If not...it's time to look at your life and make some changes.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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