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Originally Posted by davidc209
First of all, don't limit yourself to just bars. Use everything you have at your disposal: women who work near you, women at the park, women from your neighborhood, network through friends, and hell, even get your online macking in order.
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Quoted for truth.
When you meet someone at a bar, the only thing you have in common is.. you're both in a bar.
He should join a club or go to some sort of convention. SCA, LARP, book club, church, BDSM convention, dog show, riding club, whatever floats his boat. If he doesn't have a hobby, he should FIND one - a man with no special interests outside of work and TV is incredibly boring and will be at serious disadvantage with the ladies.
The old adage about having a dog making it easier to meet people is 100% true, especially if it's a reasonably cute dog like a golden retriever or sheltie or even a cute mutt. If he doesn't have or doesn't want a dog, he can walk his neighbors' dogs; this works just as well, if not better (makes you look compassionate and helpful to others).
If he just plain hates dogs, find something else - like babysitting a cute niece. I'm perfectly serious, it WORKS. I am painfully shy but when I have my dog, people (including hot young people) stop me in the street or the park and strike up a conversation about the dog. Bingo! All the hard work is now done, just chat about the dog or child a little and then introduce yourself and ask if she wants to grab a cup of coffee or a sandwich.
He can also try playing chess or frisbee or another game by himself in public, and someone may ask to join. He can also read a book in a coffeeshop, and someone might ask what he's reading. All of these are better than trying to pick someone up in a bar, not only because they will likely attract a better class of lady but also because it is much, much easier on his psyche, and if he is feeling less anxious, he is more likely to succeed in entertaining his new acquaintance.