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Hyacinthe · 12-13-2008, 12:14 AM

Talked to the SO and my best friend about it actually - inviting her into bed with us that is.

They're both very pro the idea, but then again they have both been in a similar situation before - she was previously in a very open marriage ( they asked me to join them in bed but I very much disliked her hubby) and he had an ex who used to frequently invite a friend to join them. Both are more worried about how I will handle seeing the two of them together.

They're both more worried about me emotionally then they are about whether or not they get to be together which actually makes me alot more comfortable with the idea. So while intellectually I'm fine with it I worry my posessive, insecure side will come to the fore screaming "maybe he likes her more then you, maybe she's better in bed then you are, they have more in common then you two" even though I am certain that he loves me.

I have been with both seperately (the SO knows and was quite heartily in favour of the act) and enjoyed both so maybe if the situation comes up. He has also said that he thinks we (as in the two women) would probably be more comfortable if he was just watching at first.

ATM things are somewhat untenable for setting up the situation though, with the two of us moving and her having to organise someone to watch her kids (she has two boys who I adore!)

I have faith that one day it will happen, just not sure when.

Sorry I guess that's kindof from the opposite side of the fence isn't it? More would I accept someone into bed with us rather then would I join another couple.

I guess that woul depend on the couple, I HAVE to have some emotional connection with the people I'm with to get any enjoyment out of sex, even if it's just affection or an initial liking and " yeah I think we could be friends if we got to know one another well enough" otherwise I just don't get aroused.

If it was with two people I honestly liked and trusted and I was single I most definitely would, I believe that those type of arrangements like FwBs all rely entirely on each party being completely honest with themself and the others involved.

12-13-2008, 12:14 AM	#56 (permalink)
Hyacinthe Psycho Location: Australia	Talked to the SO and my best friend about it actually - inviting her into bed with us that is. They're both very pro the idea, but then again they have both been in a similar situation before - she was previously in a very open marriage ( they asked me to join them in bed but I very much disliked her hubby) and he had an ex who used to frequently invite a friend to join them. Both are more worried about how I will handle seeing the two of them together. They're both more worried about me emotionally then they are about whether or not they get to be together which actually makes me alot more comfortable with the idea. So while intellectually I'm fine with it I worry my posessive, insecure side will come to the fore screaming "maybe he likes her more then you, maybe she's better in bed then you are, they have more in common then you two" even though I am certain that he loves me. I have been with both seperately (the SO knows and was quite heartily in favour of the act) and enjoyed both so maybe if the situation comes up. He has also said that he thinks we (as in the two women) would probably be more comfortable if he was just watching at first. ATM things are somewhat untenable for setting up the situation though, with the two of us moving and her having to organise someone to watch her kids (she has two boys who I adore!) I have faith that one day it will happen, just not sure when. Sorry I guess that's kindof from the opposite side of the fence isn't it? More would I accept someone into bed with us rather then would I join another couple. I guess that woul depend on the couple, I HAVE to have some emotional connection with the people I'm with to get any enjoyment out of sex, even if it's just affection or an initial liking and " yeah I think we could be friends if we got to know one another well enough" otherwise I just don't get aroused. If it was with two people I honestly liked and trusted and I was single I most definitely would, I believe that those type of arrangements like FwBs all rely entirely on each party being completely honest with themself and the others involved. __________________ "I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken... and the one that could brighten up your day even if she couldnt brighten her own" "Her emotions were clear waters. You could see the scarring and pockmarks at the bottom of the pool, but it was just a part of her landscape – the consequences of others’ actions in which she claimed no part."