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It's interesting to me, Joz, that your situation kinda mirrors what I've observed in my own children. Our middle child is highly motivated, and quite accomplished in many areas. There's somewhat less of this in the elder and younger siblings (not a criticism.. they are both doing just fine!). As in your family, their mother is the dominant character in their upbringing, and each of the children has been treated and nurtured as unique individuals. I think there might be some birth order influence at work here.
Finding what motivates you, personally, is a worthwhile endeavor. I realize that, for myself, I'm highly motivated by how my actions, or inaction, will affect those around me. My most motivating goals are generally shared goals with family, the band, coworkers. My individual accomplishments are more meaningful to me if they also advance a shared benefit.
I can't tell you when I came to that realization. That hasn't been a conscious part of my introspection. It just seems to be how I function best. There's probably some id/ego psychobabble that's relevent.
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"Regret can be a harder pill to swallow than failure .With failure you at least know you gave it a chance..." David Howard
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